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True Independence Means Freedom from Validation

I have been pondering the concept of independence. While I see financial and intellectual independence as important I feel true independence means breaking free from the need to seek validation from others. Our society puts a lot of emphasis on getting approval from strangers through physical cues (like clothes, cars, and homes), attention-seeking (likes on […]

Trusting Your Gut: Why Intuition Can Be Smarter Than Logic

Most of us are not very adept at dealing with uncertainty. We prefer certainties and guarantees. You know those moments when you ignore your strong intuition or gut feeling, become fearful, and seek reassurance from others, asking, “What do you think?” “Should I do it?” Our craving for certainty undermines our intuition in those instances. […]

Winning the Argument, Losing the Respect: The Hidden Cost of Being Right

Watching the recent public shouting matches between global politicians, I am reminded of a business meeting from my younger days when I argued with a colleague about something he said that didn’t make sense to me. The disagreement grew emotional, and our voices became louder. Ultimately, I managed to present some facts that my colleague […]

Beyond the CV: How to Hire for Character, Not Just Skills

I wrote a post some time back in which I mentioned that looking at CVs and LinkedIn profiles only is not a good way to recruit. It is much better to spend time with candidates and get to know their stories if you are interested in their character rather than just skills. Expanding on that […]

Lonely in a Connected World: The Cost of Too Much Screen Time

I grew up in a community where everyone in our street and the next knew each other. Our immediate neighbors were closer to us, but we also knew the children who lived 10 or 12 houses away. What the neighborhood provided us with, as children, and to my parents as adults, was hardly any alone […]

Redefining Success: Why True Happiness Starts Outside the Office

I often hear people say, “My work is who I am.” Nothing could be further from the truth. If you do not know yourself well, chances are that you will become what you do. Most of us are trapped in this phenomenon because we have defined our identity based on our business cards! In today’s […]